If you can't recognize definitional white privilege and accept iunt as a fact of American sociological life, you are not, in any way, "included to be sympathetic" to the people on the receiving end of systemic racism.
First, I wrote 'inclined, not 'included'.
That said, I still disagree.
The disconnection might be wildly different understandings of privilege. Examples of unearned privilege:
*Getting breaks from the police or court cases / tickets fixed because of family connections.
*Inherited family memberships in exclusive clubs.
*Legacy admissions to prestigious universities despite not qualifying
Not privileges:
*Freedom from voter suppression.
*Not being abused by the police.
*Not being denied employment or credit soley based on race.
*Can readily buy bandaids that match one's skin tone.
I have already said that residual systemic racism still exists. I do think things have improved since the end of Jim Crow institutional racism; which I actually recall.
American culture has been called a melting pot, but it is really more like a stew pot. All the ingredients maintain their own identity, while seasoning or influencing the others.
Of course there is cultural conflict and clash. The white European culture has been predominant up until now, but it itself is a product of a blending of oft conflicting subcultures.